Melanie
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| Gender | Female |
|---|---|
| Occupation | Stay at Home Mother |
| Location | Michigan |
| Introduction | I use to be a full time worker, but because of unexpected circumstances I have choosen to stay home and take care of my little one who needs some extra special lovin' these days. |
| Interests | It is said that parents attach to children through core-level dreams, fantasies, illusions, and projections into the future. Disability dashes these cherished dreams. The impairment, not the child, irreversibly spoils a parent's fundamental, heart-felt yearning. Disability shatters the dreams, fantasies, illusions, and projections into the future that parents generate as part of their struggle to accomplish basic life missions. Parents of impaired children grieve for the loss of dreams that are key to the meaning of their existence, to their sense of being. Recovering from such a loss depends on one's ability to separate from the lost dream, and to generate new, more attainable, dreams. As disability bluntly shatters the dreams, parents face a complicated, draining, challenging, frightening, and consuming task. They must raise the child they have, while letting go of the child they dreamed of. They must go on with their lives, cope with their child as he or she is now, let go of the lost dreams, and generate new dreams. To do all this, the parent must experience the process of grieving. This is what I am trying to do now, this is my interest, to learn to survive this. I read another parents blog once that said; We some times have to take the opportunity to step out of the situation and to be by ourselves, and then just lose your emotions for a few minutes. Sometimes the way broken parents of broken children get through it all is to step into the dark and lose their minds, to cry hard, and just stop being the brave little soldier for a while. |
| Favorite Books | Illusions, One, by Richard Bach, Time Traveler's Wife, by Audrey Niffenegger . |