Hailey Sadie
My blogs
Gender | Female |
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Industry | Consulting |
Location | United States |
Links | Audio Clip, Wishlist |
Introduction | The honeymoon period is the other person. Finding common grounds and be happy with. In operating mode. Able to accept each others and the relationship becomes habit become comfortable. |
Interests | As a relationship coach people come to me in a stuck state and using NLP we go through and discover what is really going on at the unconscious level. Everybody has their own model of the world. Relationship problems occur when there is miscommunication and clashing between our models. Once the honeymoon period is over, people come into their own and 'become different people'. This is not the case, its simply that more of their personality and models are becoming visible. We represent our worlds through a primary modality, visual, auditory, kinesthetic, gustatory or olfactory (see, hear, feel, taste, smell). If your primary modality is visual and your partner's is kinesthetic(feeling) you will both mismatch each other because each of us represent our world differently. We have different evidence procedures. One example of this is, a woman came to me and said my husband turns away when I talk to him. "he never listens to me" After some further questioning, in individual session; it turned out her husband was an auditory person and as a result he turns away to listen, its an auditory trait, she on the other hand was a visual person. A simple mismatch but it can cause huge problems if you are not aware of it. We walk around in our routine way, in our own modeling, in our own thought patterns: we mind read what the other person is thinking. What would happen if you just stopped and asked your partner how they like to be loved? Would it change your results. If you now know your partner is a visual person and they like to be shown love visually, gifts or visual signs, you can really show your love by satisfy their nature. |