Well Laidback Christian, I think you're on the right track. Keep focused on the Lord. He knows what is right for you and if this gal realizes how lucky she is, she'll be back. If not, God has someone in store for you... it may be he's not done preparing her (or you) in order to have you meet yet. I just wrote in my blog the other night about single issues. I've been there done that... 11 plus years. But you're right in not "looking" immediately. You'll happen upon her at the right time. Blessings, Estherhttp://heavenlynewsonline.blogspot.com
September 17, 2008 at 10:54 PM
It's entirely possible that I have way too many opinions on this topic, but it sounds like a situation similar to my own. In the first church my family went to, things got pretty far off track in about a five year timeframe. 25 years later, I sat down with the daughter of the pastor of this church (one that people were leaving in droves). I questioned her about some things that went on (or were allowed to go on) and she assured me that her father (the pastor) was not in agreement with those things. And my point to her was that he allowed them and didn't maintain some semblance of order and biblical protocol. That seemed to create an environment where about anything goes and consequently, people got off on all kinds of strange things unchecked. I didn't know it then, and can only say this looking back. There were many, many erroneous beliefs held by the people that were in no-wise biblical. It was more a matter of "that's what I feel God is telling me"...with little concern for whether it was scriptural. I hope you can sort everything out and that God gives you some real clarity in your thinking for this decision.
September 18, 2008 at 3:46 AM
Sorry to hear about. However, it sounds like you have your head on straight, so you'll make it through alright.Just one comment. My approach to Christian doctrine has always been to find out what is essential; everything else may be interesting and helpful, but not mandatory. I have come to realize that the loss-of-salvation issue is an in-house Christian debate. I know Christians on both sides of this issue that can make good, Biblical arguments in favor of their position.Think about this scenario: a man grows up in a Christian home, attends seminary, pastors a church for 15 years, and then rejects God and becomes an atheist (I'm actually thinking of a specific person in this example; you probably know a few people like this yourself). Does this man have salvation? Most Christians would say no. The Christian who believes that you can't lose your salvation would say that he was never saved to begin with. The one who does believe that salvation can be lost would say that he rejected his salvation. Which is right? Personally, I don't know, but the end results are the same.The problems start at the extreme edges of both these views. I know once-saved-always-saved Christians who claim that a person who has lived as an atheist his entire adult life still has salvation because he prayed "The Prayer" when he was a child. I think this clearly goes against scripture.On the other side of the spectrum, I know Christians who believe that every time we sin we lose our salvation until we offer God repentance for that specific offense. I think this is also unbiblical and wrong.That said, within the boundaries of those two extremes is an area where Biblically based followers of Jesus can (and do)disagree.I know that was off-topic, but I think we lose a lot when we make too much of disagreements on non-essential issues. Obviously, there are (many) cases when non-essentials are made so much of that they inhibit the essentials of Christianity. It sounds like you've been dealing with this exact problem at your (former) church. I've been to some churches where so much was made of the Book of Revelation and the supposed near fulfillment of that book that the essentials of Jesus Christ (and Him crucified) were lost. Even if I agreed with their take on eschatology (I didn't) I would have found it impossible to stay there. Anyway, like I said before, you sound like you've got your head on straight. Look forward to reading the rest of your posts.
October 9, 2008 at 12:26 PM
posted by DomHyo at 8:42 PM on Sep 17, 2008